INFERTILITY WARRIOR Blog

If you have read my blog you will know how fierce my attitude is about changing the way society thinks of infertility.  My work will not be done until Infertility is reframed into an admirable fight - removing the shame and stigma that makes an already heartbreaking ordeal into plain torture at times.  RAISING AWARENESS that will result in understanding and compassion.  I have found two women that share that goal .  .  .

Recently I received a copy of a guidebook called "Do You Love Someone Who Is Infertile?" and I gobbled it up!  It is hard to explain how validating this book was to my experience and I would imagine millions of other women.  Great to read for yourself, but an excellent hand out for your husband/partner, mother/mother-in-law, and sisters/close friends.  (In my utopia it would be required reading for every fertility doctor!)  Even if they skim and read parts of it, I do believe it will help them 'get it' a bit more and show them that YOU ARE NOT CRAZY or "milking it" or "overreacting."  I loved how the book talked about how infertility changes you, shapes who you are, forever.

The book explains in simple language why infertility often hits women so much harder than it hits men.  Were most men playing mommy and nurturing their dolls when they were young?  Maybe some, but most were playing with cars, balls, and wrestling each other.  I LOVED how they addressed the "Gift of Anger" and how it was healthy - which you know I believe in because of the Infertility Warrior and her strong, fierce, determined stance. 

The book is available on Amazon, but the best place to get your copy is at The Stewart Institute For Infertility where they have lots of information.  The writers have the credentials - Shari DeGraff Stewart struggled with infertility and is a therapist, her co-author, Julia Fichtner Krahm is her close friend that although 'fertile' was by her friend's side all the way and worked hard to understand and support her during her many years of struggle. In other words she "got it." 

The Stewart Institute is currently offering free shipping for this book and plans on coming out with others to address the emotional side of infertility.  I encourage everyone in this infertility fight to get this book.  At 55 pages and $12.95 it is affordable and not overwhelming to suggest a loved one read it.  I have not seen anything out there that rang as true as this book did - seriously, check out Do You Love Someone Who Is Infertile? or put it on your holiday wish list (a good way to get it in your hands as well as the person who buys it for you!!)